The Humorous Interactions That Stay with Me

The Humorous Interactions That Stay with Me
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A few months ago, my colleague Brianna Albers wrote an excellent column about ableism in interactions with strangers. People pity those with disabilities and say things such as, “I’m so sorry for this horrible thing you have to live with.” I’ve written about this sentiment many times as well.

These interactions are frustrating and happen quite regularly to people like me. Yet in my 26 years of living with SMA, I’ve also experienced some particularly humorous interactions, from unforgettable one-liners to amusing conversations. 

Getting mixed up with Kevan Chandler

I was with some friends at Barnes & Noble on New Year’s Eve. We’re party animals, so we sat in the cafe and listed our favorite movies of the decade. A woman I didn’t know approached me with a starstruck look in her eyes. Unless she was a super fan of my performance in “A Midsummer Night’s Dream” when I was in eighth grade, I wasn’t sure why she recognized me.

Then she said, “Excuse me, are you the world traveler who designed the adaptive backpacks?” 

Ah.

I told her that she confused me with the other Kevan with SMA, who is infinitely more famous than I am. Kevan Chandler is a renowned adventurer and writer and helped develop adaptive backpacks for people with disabilities. He has red hair, no glasses, and his beard is less rugged than mine, but apparently, people in wheelchairs all look the same. 

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Me and the other Kevan. (Photo by Kevin Schaefer)

The car experts who marvel at our adaptive van

In 2016, my family bought an MV-1, the first American vehicle designed specifically for wheelchair users. It looks more like a tank than a van, and I get to ride shotgun whenever we drive it. 

I’d be able to buy four more cars if I had half of a penny for every time a car “expert” approached my parents or me to say, “What is that?!” Just the other day, I went to a hockey game with my family. An automobile expert stopped me in the parking lot. I’ve explained what the MV-1 is so many times that I might as well be a spokesperson for Mobility Ventures.

Ironically, people focus so much on the car that they fail to notice the robotic arm on the side of my chair. 

The Seeing Eye dog comment

Back when I took my service dog with me everywhere, I received numerous comments and questions about her. Most people requested to pet her or asked what she could do for me. But some people said, “Look, that’s a Seeing Eye dog!”

Now, I’m no mathematician, but I would love for someone to calculate the probability of a blind person successfully operating a power wheelchair. Believe it or not, a hospital intern once said that. If only I had a pair of sunglasses with me at the time. 

The big head comment

Many parents seem to think that people with disabilities don’t want kids to bother them with questions. On the contrary, I am always happy to talk to kids when they inquire about my disability. The more I can teach kids to interact with people in wheelchairs as they do with everyone else, the better. 

I’ve lost track of how many times children have asked me questions such as, “What happened?” or, “Why are you in a wheelchair?” Nevertheless, one of the best things a kid has ever said to me was years ago. I don’t remember where I was, but I’ll never forget the comment. 

“You have a big head,” was all the boy said to me before walking away. He was an observant young lad. I have a noggin so big that it took me years to figure out how to balance it properly

Living with SMA leads to all kinds of memorable interactions with people. I find it cathartic to reflect on the more amusing ones. Now that we’ve made it to a new year and a new decade, I’m sure I’ll have plenty more stories in the future. Perhaps some stranger will be bold enough to ask me how I go to the bathroom, and I will direct them to this column. My editors still bemoan that one. 

Happy New Year!

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Kevin Schaefer is a writer from Cary, North Carolina with SMA Type II. He studied English at NC State University with concentrations in film studies and creative writing, and since graduating he’s been focused on freelance journalism as well as writing comic book scripts. When he’s not writing or consuming excessive amounts of comic books and movies, he enjoys spending time with family and friends and considers himself blessed that they put up with his ramblings. He is the youngest of three and lives with his parents and dog Pandora. The dog gets the most attention.
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Kevin Schaefer is a writer from Cary, North Carolina with SMA Type II. He studied English at NC State University with concentrations in film studies and creative writing, and since graduating he’s been focused on freelance journalism as well as writing comic book scripts. When he’s not writing or consuming excessive amounts of comic books and movies, he enjoys spending time with family and friends and considers himself blessed that they put up with his ramblings. He is the youngest of three and lives with his parents and dog Pandora. The dog gets the most attention.
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