On my birthday, I reflect on the miracles that have met my needs

When I've been pressed for better care and housing, gifts have appeared

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by Ari Anderson |

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On Sunday, I climbed another mountain, and I’m giving a prayer of thanks and saying, “Hip, hip, hooray!” Why? Because I had my 42nd birthday on July 7.

It’s a high moment for me because I’m now 40 years beyond the life expectancy I was given as a baby with SMA. I was diagnosed in the early 1980s, when there were none of the drug therapies for SMA we have now. I was expected to live till age 2.

That prognosis left me in a tough bind, but I’ve been getting out of tough binds my whole life. Each time the bind loosens, it’s like I’m unwrapping a gift that contains miracles. Over time, each one of those miracles has grown and multiplied to meet all my needs.

Throughout my life, I’ve been in situations where either I’ve had a severe respiratory infection or life-supporting equipment wouldn’t work at a critical time. People, including me, have sometimes thought I might have only a few minutes or hours to live. I believe that through God and the determination of myself and others, those minutes and hours have miraculously multiplied into years and decades.

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Miracles in advocacy

I can see another example of how my miracles have multiplied by looking at my years as an advocate in the North Carolina General Assembly (our legislature), fighting for my Medicaid program called private duty nursing (PDN).

At times I’ve felt dismayed when advocating. I now know this feeling is natural from time to time, but it doesn’t make the emotions any easier. There were times, especially when I was 19 and 20, when I felt so disappointed about how our advocacy was going that it felt like my mom and I were fighting alone. That was hard.

I don’t blame either political party for making me feel this way. Both Democrats and Republicans can learn more about the importance of private duty nursing. Nonetheless, legislators from both parties have rescued me many times through the years by not decreasing PDN services. Having legislators who can fight with you for your cause is a miracle in itself and a critical piece of the healthcare puzzle.

Still, PDN is a complex program. To protect it fully, my mom and I had to seek support from state and county Medicaid officials, as well.

Our miraculous allies have multiplied as we’ve formed long-lasting relationships with Medicaid officials. They’ve helped us stay on top of any technicalities that might endanger my nursing, making sure my paperwork is in order multiple times. Many watchful eyes are needed to ensure my Medicaid records are complete. The alternative could mean disaster, preventing me from receiving life-saving nursing care.

It takes teamwork from everyone — state legislators, state and county Medicaid officials, my nursing agency, and my mom and me — to check and recheck that every detail is in place. It’s a constant, ongoing process that keeps me safe. It gives me hope that the people who can help me with all this work have miraculously multiplied into a wide-ranging team.

Miracles in my living space

A man wearing a pale green shirt and black pants sits in a wheelchair. He's in a small kitchen, with an oven, sink, and refrigerator close together.

Ari Anderson in his kitchen today, where his nurses prepare his tube feedings. The room is separate from his mother’s kitchen, which is on her side of the house. (Courtesy of Ari Anderson)

Miracles have multiplied in my living spaces as well. When I was a child, we lived in a tiny apartment. I had my own bedroom and bathroom, which was great, but it wasn’t enough to respect everyone’s privacy.

My nurses needed to prepare my tube feedings in my family’s kitchen, for instance. From there, they could see and hear everything that my family was doing in the living room.

My mom had bigger dreams. In 1995, when I was 13, we had our own house built, and the garage became my living space. My former bedroom and bathroom miraculously multiplied, giving me my own kitchen and medical supplies room — all separate from my mom’s living space in the same house.

Over time, my rooms multiplied even more when we added an extra medical supplies space, built within the existing one. It’s been amazing to see how God turned my small apartment’s bedroom into one entire side of our house.

A man in a pale green shirt and black pants sits in a wheelchair in front of a cupboard and file cabinet. At the side are a bookshelf and a light green barn door.

Ari Anderson sits in front of one of his medical supply spaces, built inside the one that already existed — complete with sliding barn doors. (Courtesy of Ari Anderson)

When I say that getting out of tough binds is like unwrapping presents, I’m saying that a bad situation can miraculously turn into a good one. These blessings can multiply into things you never expected. Seeing and talking about these things helps my faith to soar!


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Julie avatar

Julie

🎂 Happy belated birthday! What a joy to read of your many blessings and the attitude of gratitude toward the Lord and the MANY who have provided help and hope along the way! We're praying for your nurse staffing needs as that seems to be an ongoing challenge.

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susie crute

Oh, Ari, that is so wonderful! I never imagined I would be able to see where you live!! I have made my own ‘little spaces’ for you as I listen to your words! And I really do ‘listen’ because that is the way to my heart! I have you in my heart, you see, and that started 20 years ago! One day we’ll be together forever! Thank you for sharing your heart with us…what it’s been like for you and your mom! I saw your mom on Shabbat, and she asked me if I’d read your newest article. I said ‘no, not yet’, but that you had called her ‘your hero’! I wanted to visit with her more, but the room was arranged differently b/c we were having a guest speaker from Israel! HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY, Ari! To God be the Glory and yes, we are praying for more nurses! Love, Susie :)

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Joy Drauden

Happy, Happy Birthday, Ari! Thank you for sharing what G-d has accomplished for you through the years and we rejoice with you! It has been a joy for me to pray with your Mom and you every week! So excited for what G-d has done and all that he is going to do! You write like your wonderful grandfather, Dr. Louis Goldberg, who is in Glory! I am enjoying his books too! Thank you for your wonderful and interesting articles. Every blessing and Shalom in our Messiah, ADONAI Yeshua. Continued prayer, Joy 🙏🕊

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