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Admitting When You’re Not Ok
I just read this great piece in the New York Times disability section (https://mobile.nytimes.com/2018/06/18/opinion/the-dangers-of-denying-pain.html). The author has sporadic-hemiplegic-migraines (S.H.M.), and she writes here about having to come to terms with seeking help instead of trying to “tough it out” herself.
Asking for help is never easy, and it’s something that all of us who have SMA have to do at some point. I think often we are so engrained with this mentality of “tough it out” and “figure things out yourself,” when in reality there is nothing wrong with seeking help. Seeking help is often viewed as a sign of weakness, but it’s not. I recommend to every person with SMA to find a strong support group and to not be afraid to ask for help. It doesn’t mean you can’t be independent.
For me, there was a time when having SMA and other circumstances in my life were becoming too overwhelming for me to handle on my own. I tend to brush off matters and “tough it out” like the author talks about here, but it got to a point where I knew I needed help. I was a sophomore in college, and I started to be more open about the mental and emotional effects that SMA was having on me. I turned to my faith, my pastors and mentors, and to an older friend with SMA. It wasn’t easy to get to the point I’m at today, but it all started with admitting that things weren’t ok and that I needed help. I was an emotional wreck at that point in my life, even though I looked fine on the outside.
Things got significantly better over time, and today I love my life. But joy isn’t something you just attain in an instant. Sometimes it takes plunging through the darkness to get to the other side.
I hope you all will take the time to read this article and reflect on it. I’d love to hear your thoughts.
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