Have you seen CODA?
Surprisingly, despite not going to theaters, I’ve seen several of the Oscar-nominated films. Thank you for streaming services. One of the movies is CODA. Several nominations awarded the film 3 Oscars. Among the Best Picture as well as Best Supporting Actor went to Troy Kotsur. Only the second deaf actor to win an Oscar. His performance certainly warrants recognition. Comedic yet heartfelt, his character along with the entire cast sheds light on many issues families deal with when you add disability into the mix.
CODA is an acronym that stands for a child of deaf adult(s). Typically coda refers to a hearing person who has a deaf parent or parents. In this film, both of the main character’s parents and brother are deaf while she is not. Having a disability myself with a sister who doesn’t I felt a greater connection to the film. My sister often took on the role of caretaker. Although I appreciate everything she’s done for me, I don’t want to hold her back or have her resent me. Does she help make things easier? Yes. Can I make do without her help? Yes.
While I don’t have disabled parents it was easy to feel connected to their situation. Every good parent wants the best for their child. At some point, you have to trust you did your job. Even if they’re pursuing something you can’t connect with. Even if it means you’ll have to do things differently. When you’ve relied on each other for so long letting go can be difficult. I see it with parents who have kids with SMA. A lot of times they struggle to realize their kids can make a go of it.
Perception is another topic the movie touches on. How you feel you and your family is perceived might be completely different than how you actually are perceived by others. This is demonstrated when the main character forms a relationship with a young man. She’s mortified by her family while he finds it comical and even refreshing in a way. It just goes to show how we see a situation isn’t how everyone sees it.
Have you watched the film? What parallels can you draw? Did they miss the mark on anything? If you haven’t seen it, I highly recommend adding it to your watchlist.