Having your significant other as your caregiver
Apparently an episode of Dr. Phil has sparked some controversy in the disabled community. I have not seen the episode, but I guess he makes it very clear that with interabled relationships the able bodied partner should not take on the caregiver role. From the sounds of it this couple had other issues, but this topic has stirred a lot of reactions. Here’s a link to an episode of Squirmy & Grubs discussing their reactions to the show after turning down an invitation to be on the episode https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=prjdlTVT5uk There’s even an Instagram movement using #100outof100 to dispute the episide.
Personally I haven’t been in a serious relationship, but I’ve known individuals that have done this and are perfectly happy with their situation. I’ve known others where it hasn’t worked out. I think it really depends on your situation. Since I’ve become accustomed to having outside caregivers I might be inclined to still rely on them for a majority of my cares, but I’m sure my partner would take on some of the roll. Not out of obligation but because they care about me. I can see where it could be awkward having to schedule others come into your home to do things your partner could just do. But I can also see where it could become overwhelming. As with anything I’m sure balance is key. My concern would be if my partner were injured or sick. I’d definitely need backups. Then there’s always the breakup factor to consider.
Have you had experiences having your partner being your primary caregiver? What would you say are the pros and cons? We’ve touched on this topic in other forum posts, but let’s dive into the subject!