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Talking Dating and Disability
Happy Friday! I wanted to share an anecdote from a Facebook group I’m a part of because I think y’all will appreciate it.
One of the group members—who incidentally has SMA as well—started a discussion about dating and disability. She basically asked people if they’d be comfortable dating someone with a disability, and even touched briefly on caretaking (i.e., how would they feel if their partner needed full-time caregiving). I’m usually wary about these kinds of conversations because they evoke a lot of discomfort and sadness in me, but so far there have been a lot of great responses. Not everyone has said they’d be up for it, but those who aren’t were quick to acknowledge that it’s something they’re working on.
In my experience, it can be difficult to be vulnerable about stuff like this. I often feel that people pity me when I talk about dating and disability, but then stuff like this happens, and I’m reminded that difficult conversations are important, because they encourage people to broaden their horizons and consider things they normally wouldn’t. All this to say that advocacy occurs in small, everyday conversations, even when we’re sure it doesn’t. We never know what impact our actions have!
Is this something you can relate to? What does the topic of dating and disability bring up for you?
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I love honesty in love relationships, and if a person does not want me, I like to directly tell him that he or she does not see himself in a love affair with me. And we with SMA need to have great support from family and friends that we also need someone who will love us and whom we will love.And most of our parents are overprotective and this is one big problem.
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That’s a great way approach! Honesty is generally the best policy. And I think it sets an expectation for other people when we’re direct about our needs, even if it’s difficult to talk about sometimes.
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Thank you for this thread, it is giving me so much strength and courage. I had joined the forum hoping to find resources to guide me through my infrequent but intense bouts of caregivers depression. Thanks. I will hold this close.