Confidence and Dating
I’d venture to say that most of us have had at least some confidence issues when it comes to dating. It’s pretty natural. Having SMA kind of invites anxiety when it comes to dating, which is partly due to the fact that there are still stigmas about people with disabilities and our desire/ability to date. It’s dumb, but it’s there.
I think the first step is just developing confidence. Just today I went for it and asked out a girl who I met at a wedding a couple months ago. She hung out with some friends and I the other night, and we have a lot in common. After a lot of overthinking and talking with a friend about it, I said “screw it” and called her up.
This person was upfront and did say she is taking a break from dating right now, but she also said she would love to hang out sometime. Hey, it’s a start. If I hadn’t taken the risk, I wouldn’t have known and we wouldn’t be hanging out at all. Just putting yourself out there is the hardest part, but you’ll feel better once you do it.
I think you’ll find that more people are willing to look past our disability than you think, even embrace it as a part of our identity. I prefer meeting people in person over online dating, but when I was on those sites I did get quite a good number of likes and girls who wanted to meet me. I put my disability upfront in my profile, and made sure to let others know that it’s a big part of who I am. Don’t be ashamed of having SMA, or afraid that it makes it impossible for you to find a relationship. If it’s something you want, it’ll happen.
That’s just my two cents. I know I’m not an expert on this subject, but I’m both content with singleness and confident that the right person for me exists. Let me know your thoughts, and I hope you all have a great weekend.