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  • How do you deal with fomo?

    Posted by deann-r on June 7, 2024 at 10:07 am

    Fomo, fear of missing out, is something I constantly struggle with.  Having a disability exasperates it, especially when I see others doing things I can’t fathom.  What I’m slowly realizing is that it’s okay to miss out.  A lot of time, effort and money go into doing all those things.  I can allocate those resources into things that enhance my life as it is, not waste my time wishing I could do all the things then being miserable trying to pull it off.  

    Do you deal with fomo? How do you handle it?

    tammy replied 1 week ago 4 Members · 6 Replies
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  • alyssa-silva

    June 9, 2024 at 11:11 am

    The older I get, the more I experience JOMO— the joy of missing out. 😂

    I experience FOMO, too, though. I don’t know that I have great advice for you. For me, I allow myself to experience whatever feelings come with FOMO, whether it be sadness, anger, or disappointment. But I don’t let myself sit in those feelings for too long. It is what it is at the end of the day. Are there certain activities where you feel FOMO the most? Maybe recognizing patterns would help you cope better?

    • blake-watson

      July 13, 2024 at 12:59 am

      This is my new favorite acronym. I don’t even know what the rest of your comment says yet because I felt compelled to hit the reply button as soon as I saw that acronym. chefskiss

      • alyssa-silva

        July 14, 2024 at 9:26 pm

        😂😂 It’s my mantra in life.

  • tammy

    July 11, 2024 at 4:36 pm

    I do struggle with this a lot myself. Even though I have had a very active social life my entire life, right now I am still suffering from that really bad knee injury from 9 months ago that I mentioned briefly on here. They still cannot quite figure out what to do to get me out of pain. So I have not been able to go out and do anything at all for the last 9 months. And on top of that one of my caregivers gave me covid right before new years eve. Which put a major damper on everything I was already dealing with. The only thing I have keeping me going right now is my relationship. He’s really been helping me to try and stay positive and to look forward to the future that we want with each other. It’s really helped me from giving up. Hopefully things will start to come around soon because dealing with an injury for 9 months and being bedridden for most of it is the most difficult thing I’ve ever gone through. But I’m glad I have him to support me

    • deann-r

      July 12, 2024 at 9:10 am

      Sorry to hear that darn knee is still aggravating. Isn’t it frustrating when body parts we don’t even use are problematic? Stinks you had to deal with Covid too. How was the recovery for that? Did you do anything specific for treating Covid? It seems like everyone is back to their busy lives so I’m thinking illnesses will be skyrocketing around here.

      Sounds like you’ve got a keeper. Glad to hear he’s been a bright spot for you. What kind of things do you do for fun?

  • tammy

    July 15, 2024 at 12:20 pm

    The knee has been incredibly frustrating more than anything. It’s been affecting me in every aspect of my life. I haven’t even been able to return to work yet. It’s been 9 months dealing with this. And I just got a second cortisone injection because apparently the first one was not given correctly. Covid wasn’t too terrible but it left me dealing with severe migraines everyday for about a week or two after recovery. But luckily it didn’t get too out of control. As soon as I knew I had it I contacted my pulmonologist immediately because I felt my lungs starting to get Wheezy and he put me on a different antibiotic similar to Paxlovid because he said it has much less side effects. It’s called Lagevrio. I could tell that it worked immediately just after one dose. My lungs were no longer wheezing anymore but just had some nausea and Mild congestion. I highly recommend if any of you have any problems to try that medication. And it doesn’t interact with really any other meds either which is great.

    But as far as things we like to do together, right now I’m extremely limited because of my knee injury. I can’t just be picked up quickly in and out of the chair like before. I have to use that stupid Hoyer lift which takes a really long time. But he’s been incredibly patient and helpful. Right now we really just hang out alone at my apartment and watch TV and listen to music and have some cuddle time. The only place we have gone together recently was dinner at my aunt’s apartment in NYC. Hopefully my recovery will progress and I can get back to living my normal life. I’m just glad he has hung in there with me for so long. It definitely helps to give me something to look forward to and not give up. Even though I have my moments of breaking down, because of the fact that the recovery has been so long and I’m still a long ways away.

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