The Existential 20-something Crisis
I couldn’t help but get all the feels from Brianna Albers’ column this week: https://smanewstoday.com/2018/09/24/sma-adulthood-tampering-invite-bridesmaid-existential-crisis/?amp. My siblings and cousins are all either married or in serious relationships, and it’s hard not to compare yourself when you’re the lone single person in your family. Many of my friends are getting engaged and married as well, and that lingering thought of “why am I still single” can be gut-wrenching.
Dating with a disability is hard, and there are so many barriers we have to break past that others don’t. I’m not afraid to admit that I’ve had times when I’ve doubted myself and longed for love, and that many of these sessions have ended in binge-watching “How I Met Your Mother” and “New Girl” and stress-eating. It’s ok to admit those things.
It’s hard, but I’ve learned that comparing yourself to where others are in life is the worst thing you can do. The idea of a “normal” trajectory for your life is really stupid, and I’m glad I’ve learned that now. Whenever I’m down about being single, I think about all of the areas in my life that are great: my career, family, friends, writing, etc.
Still, it’s ok to feel down about this stuff sometimes and vent. It is harder for us to navigate dating and relationships, and our frustrations are valid.
What do you all think? Could you relate to Brianna?