When Vulnerability Is Harder Than Usual
Happy Tuesday! Here’s a link to the latest installment of my column, in which I talk about vulnerability and how difficult it is for me to advocate for myself. I don’t doubt that anxiety has something to do with it, but at the same time, disability seems to play a very unique role.
I don’t know why I’m so averse to admitting my needs. Online, I can pass as abled, but in person, there’s no mistaking the wheelchair. Everyone knows I’m disabled, and those who don’t know the specifics of my diagnosis can still piece together the importance of accommodating me. But still, I resist—scared to stick out, to be the reason my friends and I can’t do this or that.
I’ve talked about this before, and I’m happy to report that I’ve gotten better at advocating for myself. That being said, it’s still difficult, and will probably always give me anxiety—something I’ve long since accepted.
How do you cope with advocating for yourself? Any tips or tricks you’re willing to share? And if advocating comes easy for you, do you mind sharing why? Brains are so diverse—I love discussing what people do and do not struggle with!